Originally Posted by Trim50
You may be surprised to find that a full batten main is morre difficult to flake. Mine is like folding cardboard and it is 3 years old. If anything, the battens make the job more difficult because the sail doesn't want to conform to the bend between the boom and mast.
As far as getting Lori behind the helm, I make every effort. However, she refuses to try pulling it into the slip because she is afraid to scratch the LP. And since the main usually comes down just before pulling into the slip, I'm always at the helm at that point.
That's interesting about it being harder to flake with the battens. I know someone who did put in the battens and found it much easier afterwards--that's where I'm getting the idea that it will be easier for me, too. Their battens are these very thick fiberglass tubes (like an inch in diameter) that are perfectly parallel to the boom and drop down for reefing like a dream.
I'm laughing about scratching the LP
When I was thinking about my husband being a better helmsman than me but me taking the helm and him going forward to deal with things, I was actually thinking about dealing with wind, big waves and tricky quartering seas where he's got the natural rhythm understood while I'm constantly a bit un-nerved by the bit of "wheel-weave-wallow" that's a natural part of sailing in some of the more trying conditions. The docking thing is entirely different. Neither one of our boats back down worth a darn. Getting into and out of the slip we've had this last year for the Rawson 30 was very tricky. I'm glad she's now on a mooring that I can just sail right up to. With our slip, we could get in under sail but always had to use power to get out because of the narrow fairway and wind direction. I'm so controlling about not scratching the hull and babying the little vintage Volvo Penta in that boat that I'm always the one at the helm for docking
I am good at docking under sail or power--its the one place where I am as good as my husband in my boat handling capabilities.
Why not just tell Lori that docking is her new job? Faced with a "must do" situation, we all learn somehow to do what we have to. Whereas strength may not be available for her to deal with the sail. She'll learn quickly and then you'll have the strength where you need it dealing with the main and she'll probably be lots more comfortable with the boat once she's good with docking. Besides, you can always touch up that paint...