What lessons did I learn, for example?
Even with the best of weather reporting, you can be caught in a disaster. Friends were in the "Queen's Birthday Storm" in the South Pacific in 1993, I think, and they thought they were going to die. Three people did die in that unexpected storm. That made me read up on the 1979 Fastnet Race, and the storm that nobody expected there. Lots of lessons learned from those storms that may or may not be applicable here.
Staying with your boat until you absolutely have to leave is probably the number one lesson from the various storm reports.
Make sure your EPIRB is registered correctly.
Keep a cool head.
Watch out for chafe.
have good storm gear.