Hey thanks for all the suggestions and comments. I agree, especially with Red. You get the feel for what suits over time and it's highly personal. We go sailing, we talk to sailors, absorb books, and accumulate stories we find a feel for what we like.
Just put up info on the Valiant 37 (After researching the boat, talking to owners, I was surprised about how overlooked this boat has become), and lots more info on the Cavalier 32 (one of the best to come from NZ).